Welcome. I’m Glad You’re Here.

You’ve probably been struggling for a while in your relationship.  Perhaps it’s been some years of not understanding how to relate to your spouse or partner.  You’ve worked so hard to raise good kids, perform well at work, and be a good spouse. Yet here you are, finding yourself disconnected and unhappy about where your relationship is.  There may be contributing factors - Poor work/life balance, bad family dynamics, addiction, or an affair. You really want this relationship to work. Sometimes you see glimmers of it working, but feel discouraged because it goes back to being the same negative cycle.

Here’s Where I Can Help.

I help couples and individuals find their way out of those stuck places.  I can help you get out of this negative relationship cycle, deal with an affair, or reconnect in a marriage without intimacy.  I can help you get heard. I can help you listen. I can help you understand the more vulnerable emotions that are coming out as anger.

Marriage Counseling

You may feel like there’s an out-of-control emotional cycle hijacking your relationship. Couples often find their pattern of arguing or disconnection weaving its way through multiple content areas. Money, sex, intimacy, parenting, in-law conflicts, or household managament are some of the many areas where you may be fighting in a very “familiar” way. The good news is when you can address the pattern of arguing or disconnection, it can help solve multiple stuck points.

Affair Recovery

If you’ve been impacted by your partner’s affair or you’ve had an affair and are trying to regain trust, here are some things you may be seeing. The injured partner may have a real bodily pain, they may be hypervigilant, always looking for the next betrayal, they may have a sense of confusion and disorientation because the world looks upside down. The affair-involved partner may be apologizing ineffectively or trying to re-establish trust, but failing.

Individual Counseling

What if your partner doesn’t want to come in with you, or you’re not in a relationship but want to change the pattern of relationships you’ve been in?  

Perhaps there’s a repeating pattern of fighting that you know you have a role in but struggle to change. Perhaps there’s a way you’ve done your past few relationships that are familiar but are hard to do differently. If you find your past dictating your present, I can help. I do this from the lens of a relationship counselor and trauma therapist, helping people to be the best version of themselves they possibly can be in their relationships.